Mmmmm hot wax play! (: I can’t wait to do this to my babygirl…
wonderful advice.That’s why Dommes always wear fifteen layers of latex lol
I just love the mind fuck of this…
24/7?! No way, how boring! We always mix things up, taking breaks from one kink and switching to another. Sometimes I’m in charge, sometimes he is. It’s about balance for us. Having anything one way for too long gets stale and is really unsatisfying. I don’t believe that human beings are made to be able to tolerate “forever” of any one thing. Variety is a necessity.
I completely understand where you’re coming from with your question though. Before my boyfriend and I actually started experimenting with our kinks, he expressed similar concerns. It saddens me to know that this is such a widely shared perspective. I think it’s a serious problem born of the disconnect created when society forces us to shove our kinks into dark and shameful little corners of the internet for fear of judgment, humiliation, and damnation. When people are only exposed to their kinks through extreme pornography, it completely skews their perception of reality and gives them frightening false expectations. I mean look at all the fetish captions you see posted every day. “You’re never going to have another orgasm for the rest of your life” is actually a common theme. After being convinced that this is the way it works through years of pornographic conditioning, people become afraid of pursuing their kinks, and I don’t blame them.
Take everything you think you know about femdom and chastity and throw it out the window. Seriously. None of it matters. It’s all just some fantasy that somebody else made up. Now sit back and think about what you want. What you’re comfortable with, what makes you happy, and what turns you on. What makes you feel good. That’s all this is about. Your sex life is not somebody else’s porn fantasy. You’re not putting on a performance, you’re trying to get off, and hopefully get your partner off too. Talk with your partner about what both of you are hoping to explore and experience, and continue to communicate throughout everything you do to make sure both of you are having the best time that you can.
I think you’ve got just the right amount of interest. You know what turns you on and what turns you off. You’ve got a good handle on what you do and don’t want here, so set your limits and start exploring. :)
YES YES YES! One HUNDRED THOUSAND TIMES YES!
He’s been in his jailbird for a week, time left currently at 2 months, he’s never been locked that long… help out a friend ;)